[OFFTHEHOOK]

My 13 year old stepdaughter wants her naval pierced. I said are you kidding. What parent or guardian would allow a 13 year old to do this? Not me. My wife and I agree. She says everybody has it. I said 16 maybe. My other stepdaughter 15 year old wants her nose pierced. Not happening either.

 

[jpd]

I never got that. Generally piercings are to stand out and be different, but she wants it because everyone has one?

 

[656770]

Although I have none of my own.

NO WAY at 13!!!

 

[crabman1130]

I don't see what the big deal is. Girls get their ears pierced at very young ages. So what's the difference with a nose or a naval?

 

[AZFISHKILLER]

OFFTHEHOOK wrote:
My 13 year old stepdaughter wants her naval pierced. I said are you kidding. What parent or guardian would allow a 13 year old to do this? Not me. My wife and I agree. She says everybody has it. I said 16 maybe. My other stepdaughter 15 year old wants her nose pierced. Not happening either.

My youngest Daughter pulled this on me at 14, piercing first and tats second

But I stayed cool, and made her a deal.

You can have any of that stuff you want, no restrictions, but you gotta get permission from your Grandfather first. LMAO

She actually had the nerve to ask him too. Too funny.

She is 30 now and no holes or ink. lol

 

[MakoMike]

Joe,
If you don't know the difference between an ear, a nose and a navel, we need to get you some anatomy lessons!

 

[fish4me]

My 14 year old has yet to ask, but when she does, no will be the answer.

 

[crabman1130]

Mike,
I know that the one in the ears, nose and naval are ornamental. The ones in other places are functional. Those I would have a problem with at that age.

 

[OFFTHEHOOK]

crabman1130 wrote:
I don't see what the big deal is. Girls get their ears pierced at very young ages. So what's the difference with a nose or a naval?

Ears pierced is fine. Who wants to see a 13 year old with a pierced naval? It just doesn't seem right. The nose doesn't even look good. When there 18 they could do want they want. Right now, me and wife have the say.

 

[slaterock]

pierced belly button. sexy, sexy sexy..not for a 13yo. but god a nice tan short cut shirt and a belly ring. chicks I love them ...Lol

..o and dont forget a few drinks down by the water.

 

[HappyCamper]

I think the key word here is stepdaughter. Where do you draw the line? How long have been her step dad and what does her father feel about this?
IMO, you have every right to express to her your values but if she decides otherwise and her mother complies then you're just gonna have to learn how to live with disappointments from teens. This is coming from experience in todays world. There will be more important things sooner rather than later to focus on so just get ready.

 

[gverb1219]

While all my kids are in their 20's now, none have peirced anything but their ears.

...............well, until my daughter came home from school break with a belly diamond.

But, she is 20 and a great kid..........never a problem with anything.

At 13 though........thats tough........

If she was wanting it because of her own expression..........thats one thing, but just because her friends are doing it...........not a good reason.

For the most part.........like clothing, hairstyles, speaking freely,...etc I have always let my kids express themselves. Remember when you were young and wanted long hair, or a tattoo or whatever...........and your parents said no?

Hey, some of my kids friends have multiple..........yes, multiple peircings.........and while I think they are a bit odd looking, they are great kids.

Hey........at least it's not a tongue piercing........

 

[OFFTHEHOOK]

HappyCamper wrote:
I think the key word here is stepdaughter. Where do you draw the line? How long have been her step dad and what does her father feel about this?
IMO, you have every right to express to her your values but if she decides otherwise and her mother complies then you're just gonna have to learn how to live with disappointments from teens. This is coming from experience in todays world. There will be more important things sooner rather than later to focus on so just get ready.




I have been in their lives 6+ years now. Their father really isn't in the picture. He is a piece of work let me tell you. My wife and I are on the same page with this issue. I have a pretty good handle on them. They were brought up very well before my time and I think I am doing a pretty good job now. These girls weren't brought up with much, which I think made them who they are today. They were never spoiled like kids today. They are both doing very well in school and are good kids. The 13 year old is on the honor roll every year and now is playing volleyball and basketball. The 15 year old is into hangin with friends.

 

[fish4me]

HappyCamper wrote:
I think the key word here is stepdaughter. Where do you draw the line? How long have been her step dad and what does her father feel about this?
IMO, you have every right to express to her your values but if she decides otherwise and her mother complies then you're just gonna have to learn how to live with disappointments from teens. This is coming from experience in todays world. There will be more important things sooner rather than later to focus on so just get ready.

It doesn't matter whether she is a step daughter for a day or 10 years. She's 13. The answer should be NO.

At 18 let her pierce anything she wants.

 

[canyonfvr]

13 and a belly ring

i remeber when i was 17 and came home with an earing my dad almost ripped it out

 

[tunaorlater]

My rule is when you don't live under my roof you can do what ever you want, BUT for now you do so what we say goes and no holes no ink. Mine is 13 too, tough age. Another good one that works for us is NO beats YES, so if she asks Mom and Mom says yes and then asks me and I say no the answer is NO.

 

[fishon2407]

Funny thing,my 14 year old son asked me yesterday if he could get gauges.Oh **** no, was my answer to that one.

 

[crabman1130]

Parents should discuss matters before they issue decrees. Children should know that it is a mutual decision that has been thought out and not a snap decision. It is easier for them to accept things when they know both parents are against something.

 

[canyonfvr]

fishon2407 wrote:
Funny thing,my 14 year old son asked me yesterday if he could get gauges.Oh **** no, was my answer to that one.

ok what are guages besides the obvious answer

 

[PURSUITWA]

I send my kid to Chaminade HS. Makes it easy as they won't allow that stuff. Heck he's not even supposed to have his hair over his ears. The really rebellious ones let it grow a bit and hook it behind their ears until they get the tap on the shoulder.