[Captneilf]

Hi,

An observation on my part.

Have you noticed that people who are negative rarely have something good to say or offer a positive solution or positive insight? Also they never are at fault, never make poor decisions and never are the problem or part of the problem. It must be nice to be perfect.

These people are usually the unhappiest people. The expression on their faces give them away. What a terrible way to live.

Constructive critisism stated in a positive manner is a completely acceptable method to improve a situation or problem.

Just some thoughts.

Neil

 

[RichTrox]

couldn't agree more....

The empty cart makes the most noise

 

[gverb1219]

Negative Thinking...........?Negativitis? cripples the human spirit

Does it seem strange that some people COMPLAIN they don?t have enough TIME to be happy, yet they find enough time to be sad? Not really. You see, their deplorable plight has nothing to do with having sufficient or insufficient time. It has everything to do with complaining. After all, complaining is the negation of happiness. It?s impossible to complain and be happy at the same time.

So, beware of that insidious disease known as ?negativitis? (negative thinking). It is as pervasive as the common cold, but far more damaging. It mutilates, cripples, and corrodes the human spirit. Those infected by it are broken men and women aimlessly plodding along. The dark clouds brooding over them obscure their vision and cause them to become confrontational, apathetic, and cynical. Their lives are like flat champagne, without any sizzle. So, how do we inoculate ourselves against such a harmful disease? It was only after learning about the horrible effects of smoking that people began to give it up. It may be wise to do the same here. So, let?s review the effects of negativitis.

1. Complaining is worse than doing nothing, for it is digging the rut one is in deeper and deeper. Each time one complains, it becomes increasingly difficult to climb out of the ditch they?ve created. To loosen the grip of this vicious habit, we need to become aware of our complaining, stop it in its tracks, and immediately look for something positive to say. It?s just a matter of replacing a bad habit with a good one.

2. A negative attitude is self-defeating. We won?t find solutions to life?s problems by looking for someone or something to blame. Those who say, "Positive thinking doesn't work for me," have got it backwards. It?s not positive thinking that has to work; YOU have to work. For example, you have to work at appreciating what you have instead of moaning about what you lack.

3. Failure to do what you want to do (be happy) causes physical and mental stress. A rotten attitude, not only delays success, but also shortens life by damaging the immune system (to learn more on how your thoughts affect your immune system, investigate psychoneuroimmunology). So, besides the diseases directly caused by stress, such as heart disease and ulcers, we become susceptible to all manner of other diseases because of a weakened immune system.

4. Do you know anyone with a negative attitude? How many years have they been that way? Two years? Five years? Ten years? That?s how many years of happiness and success they have robbed themselves of. Blinded by their own negativity, they are prevented from seeing the good around them.

5. One characteristic of negative thinkers is their need to have the world behave according to their wishes. They have never grown up and still live with childish demands. Whenever people and the world fail to act according to their selfish wishes, they are unhappy. Such a poisonous attitude prevents them from growing and learning how to cope with life's challenges.

6. Everything negative we say about ourselves to ourselves (self-talk) and to others is a suggestion. We are unwittingly practicing self-hypnosis, programing ourselves for failure, and creating self-fulfilling prophecies.

7. The negative world of our imagination creates a negative world that is real and one that we are forced to live in. Take Ralph, for example. He?s always complaining about life. ?Nowadays people are rude and surly. No matter where you go or what you do, you have to deal with ill-bred people.? As he said this, we made our way to a coffee shop. Once inside, we were greeted by a cheerful chap who asked us what we would like. Sighing (as if it took a great effect to speak), Ralph, almost inaudibly, ordered a medium sized regular coffee. When it arrived, he started complaining. Pointing to the cup, he said, ?This is medium?? Without waiting for a response, he added, ?You should have told me your cups are so small; I would have ordered a large one if I knew.? Despite the long line that Ralph was holding up, the man behind the counter tried to be patient. Without complaint, he took away the small coffee and replaced it with a large one. As soon as it arrived, Ralph looked at it aghast and bellowed, ?You call this regular? There?s not enough cream!? The man behind the counter, who only moments ago was cheerful was now upset and sarcastically replied, ?Yes, for MOST people, this is regular, but if you INSIST, I?ll put in more cream. Perhaps next time you may want to ask for DOUBLE cream!? I was next, so I got my coffee and joined Ralph at the table. ?See,? he told me, ?what did I say to you? People are rude.? Yes, in Ralph?s world, people ARE rude, but what he does not realize is he makes them so.

8. A particularly pernicious effect of ?negativitis? is that it sets one up for the mentality of a victim. Those with a woe-is-me attitude sit around in misery, waiting to be rescued. But they wait in vain because no one can rescue them from their own attitude. They are the only ones who can change it. And until they do so, they are condemned to continue suffering.

9. Another adverse effect of negativity is that it sets one up for the magic-bullet-syndrome. That is, the victim of ?negativitis? spends their time looking for a quick, easy fix, when none exists. By denying a fundamental law of life that states anything worthwhile requires effort to achieve, they achieve nothing. They won?t make progress until they realize that nothing in life is free. They?ve got to be willing to do what it takes to get what they want.

10. Also, beware of the fact that negative people attract other complainers. Because those who live in a world of doom and gloom alienate others, they have no choice but to look for other negative people to associate with. They then feed off one another and get locked in a clique of losers.

11. The constant stress that flows from a negative attitude also saps one?s energy, focus, and motivation. It is hardly a formula for success.

12. Also of great concern is the fact that those who refuse to work on improving their negative attitude may slide into depression, self-pity, and hopelessness.

13. Additionally, negative people not only harm themselves; they harm the world. They cease to make a contribution to it. Instead of helping, they spread gloom and misery everywhere. If they insist on infecting others, why not infect them with laughter? If they must carry something contagious, why not carry a smile?

Imagine being in a small boat drifting in a river. And imagine being unaware that your boat has a motor. As long as you fail to use that motor you will be a captive of the river. You will be a prisoner without any control over your destination. Yet, the boat that we?re in does have a motor. We can use it to change course. That motor is our power of choice. All we have to do is choose to look for the good, for when we do so, that is all we will find!


Personal Developement.com

 

[northsider]

Hi Capt. Neil,

Good thoughts, I needed to hear them today.

Thanks/Bill

This post edited by northsider 04:32 PM 01/13/2008

 

[bonsiguy]

good thoughts g ill try and remember them while at work for the next few days listning to the choir

 

[Lattitudechange]

Philippians 2:14-16

Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe as you hold out the word of life?in order that I may boast on the day of Christ that I did not run or labor for nothing.

 

[Gaucho]

So very true Capt Neil!!!!!!

These people are never wrong

And always want and HAVE to be right ALL THE TIME...god forbid if you catch them being wrong.
These are the FACTS they say......their opinion is what counts noone else could have an opinion.

 

[Flukinicehole]

Im wrong all the time and admit it

. Just ask my wife

.

 

[offracing]

very true

very true neil, hopefully all the negative people out there will read this thread.
carl
offracing

 

[LeoDA]

Ahhh,...If we could solve this,...we'd have World Peace.

 

[fish4me]

There are some people who think everyone else is doing things the wrong way. They want to make changes just for the sake of having input. What they really should be doing is concentrating their energy on fixing things that are truly in need of repair.


Do not take the negativity personally.

Remember that the negativity is their problem, not yours.

 

[shoeman]

i have never met someone who's right all the time,just alot of people who think they are

 

[crabman1130]

I may not always be right, but I'm never wrong!!!!!!

 

[likeitreallyis]

We're for the recreational Angler !!

Yeah right... just don't fish near me and give me your money hee hee

I try to get everyone back for the same cause (the recreational angler) and this is what I get, too good to keep for myself:

vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv
Bob
First of all you toatlally screwed yourself allighing with GS and not willy young ... second of all the other websites im on this and *** dont like you one bit ..

Everyone knows yours georges little ***** , thats how people got kicked off .. Your Noreast home is crumbling , and i know i will give so mych **** anywhere i see you...

f*** You
f*** Noreast
f*** OMD and all the bitches(Except leo) on noreast

vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv

 

[likeitreallyis]

except Leo

LMAO!!!

These other sites are so proud they hate other fisherman,,, than they scream about helping "the recreational angler" ..

 

[SORTIE]

Bob, just tell that punk that you can still throw a wheel kick over your head YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE-HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Neil, you're a gentleman from the old school and 98% of us respect you and are with you. If we all try to keep it positive, Noreast won't collapse from within.

I have had it with icepicks who deliberately seek confrontation and deliberately sow seeds of dissent.

Latty: nice O.T. citation!

 

[likeitreallyis]

already told him that Sortie

Meanstreak lives,, this PM was from another site...

 

[loligo]

likeitreallyis wrote:
except Leo

LMAO!!!

These other sites are so proud they hate other fisherman,,, than they scream about helping "the recreational angler" ..

Thats right, and here on NE, we try to keep it real, save a few bad apples.

 

[Scott1280]

likeitreallyis wrote:

First of all you toatlally screwed yourself allighing with GS and not willy young ... second of all the other websites im on this and *** dont like you one bit ..

Everyone knows yours georges little ***** , thats how people got kicked off .. Your Noreast home is crumbling , and i know i will give so mych **** anywhere i see you...

f*** You
f*** Noreast
f*** OMD and all the bitches(Except leo) on noreast

I feel like I'm playing on wheel of fortune, except I really don't think I want to solve this puzzle

Agree 100% Neil!

We should all treat others as we'd like to be treated, not always as we feel that they treated us.

I also think Voltaire was dead-on when he said "I may disagree with what you say, but I?ll defend to the death your right to say it". No reason we can't be positive, even in our occasional discourse.

 

[GradySailfish]

I always try to be an optimist, but I think being a pessimist has its benefits.

Let me explain. When you?re an optimist and something bad happens, you're going to be disappointed. When something positive happens, your feelings are neutral, since after all you were expecting that "positive thing" to happen.

Thus being an optimist only leaves room for disappointment.

Pessimists on the other hand always expect things to go wrong; therefore when something goes right, they are pleasantly surprised. When things go wrong, they are not adversely affected because they expected that to happen.

Thus being a pessimist only leaves room for pleasant surprise.

That said I have a certain philosophy. I only have a limited amount of time to expend on things, those things vary but they encompass everything we encounter and experience in our daily lives. I prefer to focus my limited amount of time and attention towards only positive things. Sure you need to deal with problems in life, but I view them as mere chores to get out of the way, and then refocus all of my energy at the important happy things.

Here's an interesting article: Pessimists in legal professions are usually more successful then optimists.