[SORTIE]

how many Noreast members see themselves becoming their fathers?

I am 48 and I started to notice the transformation at least ten years ago. Everyone here knows that I inherited my love of brightwork from my pop and when I started to stay up late listening to the radio while prepping and varnishing down in the basement I should have known where that was leading

over the last three years I've gotten into fiberglassing. my father uses fiberglass to reinforce / fix any number of items around the house. I was disassembling a bed in his house last week when I noticed one of his classic fiberglass patch jobs. A few days ago I noticed that the metal license plate bracket on my car had broken, so I whipped up a small batch of resin, cut a piece of tape to fit and glassed over the back of the bracket.

In my case it's not a bad thing to become my father since he's a good guy

-- how many of you also see yourself slowly becoming your dad?

This post edited by SORTIE 01:49 PM 08/11/2008

 

[AZFISHKILLER]

SORTIE wrote:
how many Noreast members see themselves becoming their fathers?

I am 48 and I started to notice the transformation at least ten years ago. Everyone here knows that I inherited my love of brightwork from my pop and when I started to stay up late listening to the radio while prepping and varnishing down in the basement I should have known where that was leading

over the last three years I've gotten into fiberglassing. my father uses fiberglass to reinforce / fix any number of items around the house. I was disassembling a bed in his house last week when I noticed one of his classic fiberglass patch jobs. A few days ago I noticed that the metal license plate bracket on my car had broken, so I whipped up a small batch of resin, cut a piece of tape to fit and glassed over the back of the bracket.

In my case it's not a bad thing to become my father since he's a good guy

-- how many of you also see yourself slowly becoming your dad?
I keep finding his pointing finger on the end of my hand. Does that count?

 

[Koz54]

SORTIE wrote:
how many Noreast members see themselves becoming their fathers?

Nope, I will never become my father.

 

[Strike1]

My father died when I was 17 years old.

I now have a son that turned 1 last month. I hope I don't turn into my father, but I know its happening. My sister is great at pointing it out to me... "you know you just made Dad's face", or "you sounded just like Dad when you said that."

I really miss him every day, and really wish he was here to see and play with his 9th grandchild.

 

[652024]

well i know i am defintly not turning into my so called father he split when he heard my mother was pregnant and my daughter will be 5 next month and i cant imagine living without her

 

[Blazetoy]

Strike...I hear ya man...

I lost my Dad while Fluke Fishing when I was 14, his Tenth Heart Attack did him in...

But I can see some like qualities - My Dad was a Gentleman, Dressed great at all times, took pride in his family, worked very hard and everyone loved him...I always still think about him and I am 45...

My Brother and I know in our Hearts that he would be proud of us...

 

[PaddleOn]

Absolutely! I've purposely have tried to be like him especialy since my 2 children were born.Always appreciated him but having kids makes you realize how much sacrifice went into raising a family.
The right way!He and my Mom ( she passed away in '93)
I could not think of a more kind and loving man than my Dad

A good human being,a good man and a gentleman.A great teacher who had patience and a constant level demeanor his entire life.
He had lost his own Dad when he was 7 and was raised by his Mom with a brother and 2 sisters.
Still going strong at 80 but I do see him aging a bit quicker than I'd like these past few years.Makes me sad...
He's my Dad but he is also my friend.
A great role model on how you should conduct yourself in this world.
He was there for everything us kids did and worked hard long hours to make sure his family had what they needed.
He came from the Depression and was a NYC cop for 21 years working in the 23rd precinct(Spanish Harlem...60's and 70's when it was a lousy area).Pay was not much so he also had a night job working security in Flower 5th Ave Hospital.
We were raised respecting what we had and taking care of the things we were given.We didn't have much but what we had we took care of.
That has never left me or my 2 sisters.
He took us fishing at Jones Beach piers ( lots of Blowfish!) and would haul his old cranky Evinrude out of the garage and we'd rent a row boat and fish for whatever.

I find myself raising my kids like I was raised.

He once said something to me many years ago when I asked him how he stays so active...and how he deals with the aches and pains of aging.
" I'll rest when I'm dead " was his reply.
And so it is...and so I'll be also.I'm 51 and I'll be damned if I let age catch me quicker than it has to!

Dad a few weeks ago.He lives in Southold and is still going at life and staying active.He knows life is short and ...
he'll rest when he's gone.

Jay

This post edited by PaddleOn 04:00 PM 08/11/2008

 

[SORTIE]

PaddleOn wrote:
I could not think of a more kind and loving man than my Dad

A good human being,a good man and a gentleman.A great teacher who had patience and a constant level demeanor his entire life.
He had lost his own Dad when he was 7 and was raised by his Mom with a brother and 2 sisters.
Still going strong at 80 but I do see him aging a bit quicker than I'd like these past few years.Makes me sad...
He's my Dad but he is also my friend.Jay
this is the type of post I was hoping to see

my dad is 78 and he's been weighed down caring for my mother, who is 81 and declining quickly. married almost 50 years now and his devotion to her remains steadfast

here's a recent picture of my sisters, pop and me at a family reunion (I brought the flag)

 

[PaddleOn]

Sortie...you know and I know that that generation was/is a special one!Very special.
They came thru hard times and a World War.They grew up with little and had an appreciation for things that were simpler.
Simpler times.
Respect for one another.
A deep pride in our nation.
A respect for $

I have alot of deep emotions for that generation.
Things I can't put into words on a message board but I think some of us understand

 

[SORTIE]

PaddleOn wrote:
Simpler times.
Respect for one another.
A deep pride in our nation.
A respect for $that about sums it up

I think about my dad too as I raise our daughters, from teaching them basic table manners (so they don't grow up Philistines), to urging them to care for their belongings, their appearance, to valuing their education. Kids may moan and groan about the ground rules we lay down, but they want us to be parents and limit-setters, not just permissive adults

even though our fathers are now friends, we have never lost respect for their authority

 

[Koz54]

Nice story Skip and Jay

, I will admit I am envious. Sorry to disappoint but facts are facts Skip.

My dad is still very much alive, but he is/was a very selfish and self centered person. My brother is just like him, and I can?t stand my brother.

I never asked the man for a thing,

($$) and I am not looking for anything other than respect.

I tried everything in my power to earn and gain the respect of the man to no avail. He has ?shut me out? since I was about 12 years old

. I tried taking him fishing, going to baseball games, going out pheasant hunting with him. I even asked him (and he accepted) to be the ?best man? at my wedding about a dozen years or so ago.

He loves to hunt and I have asked to go on one of his trips several times over the years. I told him I was always willing to pay my own way, and didn?t even want to shoot anything other than a camera or bird but I would not get an answer. I figured out what that meant.

He even went on a few fishing (he doesn?t like fishing all that much) and duck hunting trips that he knew I would love to go on but,,,,

My mother says ?that?s the way he is?. I don?t hate or dislike my father at all; I am just done trying to earn his respect.

I am very envious of you guys that have or had a close relationship with your dad.

Count your blessings because you are very lucky people

This post edited by Koz54 04:31 PM 08/11/2008

 

[tautog1]

Every now and then, I catch myself doing or saying something, and I stop at the realization that I am becoming my Father. My sister's all see it, and my Mother sees it. Dad's still with us, although really stuggling. When I'm over the house, I'll be sitting with him talking, and my Mom will walk in and say, "It's like watching someone have a conversation with themself".

There are worse people to take after. He is now 74, and has had a series of health problems ranging from diabetes to parkinson's disease, with a couple of strokes thrown in there. He is no longer the dynamic, larger than life man he was, but he has managed to keep his sense of humor.

He worked his tail off raising 5 kids in the 70's and 80's (I'm the baby of the family, now 35). He always worked at lease 2 jobs, sometimes 3, but always managed to have time to take us fishing, make it to our little league games, school plays, cub scout meetings, etc.

He's truly "one of a kind", and people who met him once, 15 years ago still ask me to say hello for them. He packed more into the first 65+ years of his life than most people could fit into 2 lifetimes. Growing up in the Bronx, a stint in the Arm durring the Korean War (was staioned in Okinowa), and a long fullfilling career as a teacher and football coach, later getting to work for his favorite NFL team.

He was always the first to help someone in need, regardles of weather he knew you or not. If you're a friend of his, you are a friend for life. Period. He's the best friend I will ever have.

I could go on for ever, but I guess I'll just say that my family thinks I'm turning into my Dad, but I'll settle for being half the man he is.

 

[AZFISHKILLER]

PaddleOn wrote:
Absolutely! I've purposely have tried to be like him especialy since my 2 children were born.Always appreciated him but having kids makes you realize how much sacrifice went into raising a family.
The right way!He and my Mom ( she passed away in '93)
I could not think of a more kind and loving man than my Dad

A good human being,a good man and a gentleman.A great teacher who had patience and a constant level demeanor his entire life.
He had lost his own Dad when he was 7 and was raised by his Mom with a brother and 2 sisters.
Still going strong at 80 but I do see him aging a bit quicker than I'd like these past few years.Makes me sad...
He's my Dad but he is also my friend.
A great role model on how you should conduct yourself in this world.
He was there for everything us kids did and worked hard long hours to make sure his family had what they needed.
He came from the Depression and was a NYC cop for 21 years working in the 23rd precinct(Spanish Harlem...60's and 70's when it was a lousy area).Pay was not much so he also had a night job working security in Flower 5th Ave Hospital.
We were raised respecting what we had and taking care of the things we were given.We didn't have much but what we had we took care of.
That has never left me or my 2 sisters.
He took us fishing at Jones Beach piers ( lots of Blowfish!) and would haul his old cranky Evinrude out of the garage and we'd rent a row boat and fish for whatever.

I find myself raising my kids like I was raised.

He once said something to me many years ago when I asked him how he stays so active...and how he deals with the aches and pains of aging.
" I'll rest when I'm dead " was his reply.
And so it is...and so I'll be also.I'm 51 and I'll be damned if I let age catch me quicker than it has to!

Dad a few weeks ago.He lives in Southold and is still going at life and staying active.He knows life is short and ...
he'll rest when he's gone.

Jay

 

[movetheboat]

Well sortie...ya got his shorts, shirt,belt and shoes...and his knees.....so maybe ya are transforming...it would be good for ya...he's better looking!!!

 

[SORTIE]

movetheboat wrote:
Well sortie...ya got his shorts, shirt,belt and shoes...and his knees.....so maybe ya are transforming...it would be good for ya...he's better looking!!!

no argument there, MTB. how about YOUR pop (dare I ask

)?

This post edited by SORTIE 05:40 PM 08/11/2008

 

[AZFISHKILLER]

My Dad is 90 years old, and refuses to die. I have always hated his guts.

Total waste of oxygen.

This post edited by AZFISHKILLER 05:35 PM 08/11/2008

 

[SORTIE]

It is sad that some of us don't / didn't enjoy a good relationship with their father. Hard to imagine for those of us that did / do.

If you have / had a detached, irritating father it makes sense to take the high road with your own kids.

 

[fish4me]

I too am envious of those who have a good relationship with their father. I unfortunately did not. He spent way too much time drinking and slapping my mother around. We are civil to each other now but that took many many years to accomplish. Now he is an old man trying to work his way into heaven.

So, I try and give my children all the attention and love I did not receive as a child. I hope that some day when the same question is asked of them, they can respond about me the same way Sortie and PaddleOn did about their father.

 

[Koz54]

fish4me wrote:

So, I try and give my children all the attention and love I did not receive as a child. I hope that some day when the same question is asked of them, they can respond about me the same way Sortie and PaddleOn did about their father.

 

[steamboat1]

My father was also raised during the depression era. He is an only child & like others of that time period learned the hard way about the value of family & money. He worked hard his whole life to achieve what he has and still does to this day even though he doesn't need to.. He is 80 yrs old now & still does much of the mechanical work on the boat, besides shaping up every morning to greet customers. During the day he manages the marina & takes care of renting slips & still does dock work. He first started as a painter/wallpaper hanger & worked his way up to working for a very prominent designer back in the day (Billy Baldwin) & my pops work was even displayed in the magazine section of the NY Times. He would have been successful in that line of work but gave it up to pursue a career in the party/charter boat business with his father which my dad made into a success through his hard work. I have the utmost respect for my father & only hope to become half the man which he has been. People say I look alot like my father but I hope I become more like the person that he is. I'm lucky to still have him around & feel for others that lost their fathers early or never had a good relationship with them. The question posed was are you becoming your father? I certainly hope so.

This post edited by steamboat1 09:49 PM 08/11/2008